Feb. 10, 2014 - Today's Gift from Hazelden

Monday, Feb. 10, 2014
Today's thought from Hazelden is:

In real love you want the other person's good. In romantic love, you want the other person.
 -- Margaret Anderson

The expression of real love is so easy between grandparents and children - and between good friends it passes effortlessly. But why is it so hard to share real love with a spouse or lover? Why, instead, do we want to possess them? And from them, we dream of selfless devotion. Yet neither possession nor devotion guarantees the security we long for.

Real love is not selfish; it frees both the giver and the receiver. Knowing we're loved sustains our hearts and diminishes our difficulties. It doesn't bind us, yet paradoxically it bonds our hearts. These encouragements to grow, to change, to dare to depart if it's for our own good, are expressions of real love. Real love is never ownership, only stewardship of this moment's experiences.

Let's be gentle with one another, and love fully with trust, as a child loves a grandmother.
From the book:
Worthy of Love by Karen Casey. © 1985 by Hazelden Foundation

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