Saturday, Oct. 28, 2023
Today’s Gift from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:
Owning Who We Are
We learn how to tell the truth in recovery. That can mean figuring out how to tell really big truths about ourselves, which includes naming and owning who we are. Over the years, I have supported friends in recovery coming out (literally) and naming some really big truths about their sexuality and identity. It’s a beautiful thing to witness. I’ve been there for friends who faced and owned some hard truths about long-term relationships as well as changed their preferences for what they want to do for work.
Knowing what we want and what we like invites change, and in recovery we can accept those invitations. I have had a few major awakenings about preferences over the past few decades, but it’s the little things I speak up about these days that feed my sense of self. Not too long ago, I admitted to my partner that I don’t like pancakes, although I had eaten them most weekends for thirty years because he and our kids loved them. I longed for tradition, and pancakes felt like tradition. I’m getting to an age now where I just don’t have time to pretend to like things anymore. So pancakes are out. Oddly enough, waffles are still in.
Recovery helps us get at our likes and dislikes and shows us how to express them more clearly.
Hazelden Foundation
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