Thursday, Aug. 29, 2024
Today's Gift from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:
For many people, the most difficult thing in the world is to learn to mind their own business.
-- J. Krishnamurti
Perhaps we think we know the perfect medical alternative or nutritional plan for a sick friend, have the name of a counselor who could help the couple whose relationship is in trouble, or know someone in desperate need of Twelve Step recovery. We have difficulties of our own, but working to resolve them seems somehow less pressing than the problems of our friends and loved ones.
It’s human to want to help others, but we may be evading our own problems when we insist on having the answers for others. When people near us are in crisis, it is best to offer advice only when asked. Often, all that’s needed is a listening ear.
When we're tempted to rescue others, we should ask ourselves whether we are helping or simply interfering. We ourselves don't want others to try to fix us. We appreciate simply being heard and validated. Instead of urging our solutions on others, we can listen with respect and understanding. It is a gift.
Today, I listen and support. I don't give unwanted advice.
Hazelden Foundation
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